What to Do When Times Are Rough
Here’s what I do when things get rough, when I’m sad or troubled or upset. I go to the kitchen and I make something and then I give it to somebody. I don’t let it get it too complicated: I pull some ingredients together from whatever is at hand and make then soup, or cookies, or bread. And then I give it to the first person I think of, usually the the one who is closest, like a neighbor, or a coworker, or sometimes even my mail carrier.
The creative act of cooking, which helps to release and loosen the knots and tangles, followed by the connecting act of giving away the results is, for me, a powerful combination. When the situation is such that there’s not much I can do, I find that I can indeed do something. And this something, as I said, doesn’t necessarily fix the wrong, but it does help because it strengthens and nourishes the right.
As things explode, and explode, and then explode again I hope you find ways of coping that are helpful and wholesome, ways that enable connection and strength and kinship. I hope you have the nourishment and fortitude to stand still in the middle of it and then, from that stillness, reach out, and reach towards, love. It is the only way.
(Image: Dana Velden)