Boyfriend Wonders If It’s Rude to Eat Food That His Girlfriend Is Allergic To — Reddit Responds Accordingly

updated Jan 2, 2020
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Navigating life with a food allergy can be difficult, frustrating, and sometimes even maddening — especially when someone close to you insists on reminding you just how good that dish you’re missing out on tastes. But the latest Reddit poster to completely miss the point of sharing a meal with someone else doesn’t seem to grasp that concept at all. On the “Am I the Asshole” forum, one boyfriend asks the title question, because he eats “stuff [his] girlfriend is allergic to in front of her.”

A reasonable person might think, ‘oh, perhaps they’ve gone to his favorite restaurant and just once he ordered a little shrimp on his salad because he loves it.’ That seems okay… but that is not the case! Rather, this person fully admits that despite knowing his girlfriend loved shrimp, lobster, and crab prior to developing an allergy, he orders it a lot of the time they go out and “never make[s] any attempt to hide how great the dish tastes.”

To make matters worse, when placed in a situation in which the only soup on the menu was a crab bisque, the boyfriend ordered it while his shellfish-allergic girlfriend sat across from him, waiting hungrily for her own entrée as he ate it.

From the outside, it’s hard to see how this person isn’t actively trying to lord his ability to eat shellfish over his girlfriend. Doing what they do best, Reddit users promptly explained to the original poster exactly how much he is, in fact, the asshole in this situation, while employing a few puns about his “shellfish-ness.” Some even went on to point out that for serious allergies, he could be putting her in danger if they kiss after he’s eaten any shellfish at all. (Nothing quite like capping off a date with a little chance of death!) Hopefully this couple can nip this issue in the bud before it rises to the levels of the woman whose in-laws seemed to be trying to poison her.