6 Things I Do “Wrong” as a Host That I Just Refuse to Change — EverKitchen
My guests have never seemed to mind.
Apr 19, 2023
5 Things You Should Be Doing Every Time You Shop at the Farmers MarketGroceries
According to a greenmarket director and frequent shopper.
Apr 15, 2023
We Asked an Etiquette Expert: Can You Ask Your Guests to Help Clean?Kitchen
The short answer? No. Read on to find out what you should do instead.
Dec 12, 2022
How to Open a Bottle of ChampagneSkills
This is the proper way to open your bottle of bubbly!
Nov 2, 2022
The Etiquette Tip Everyone Should Read Before Heading to a Holiday Party
Tips from The Kitchn
Don't be so fast to help with those dishes!
Dec 17, 2021
Smart Tips for Splitting a Check, According to Etiquette and Restaurant Experts
Tips from The Kitchn
What if you ordered a modestly priced entree while your friends ordered lavish dishes?!
Oct 29, 2021
5 Things Airbnb Guests Should Always Do (and 3 They Can Skip)Kitchen
Because it's likely been a while since most of you did some traveling.
Jun 7, 2021
5 Things Airbnb Guests Should Always Do (and 3 They Can Skip)Kitchen
Because it's likely been a while since most of you did some traveling.
Jun 7, 2021
My Mom and I Are in the High-Risk Group for COVID, but My Sister Is Insisting We Travel to Be at Her Wedding This Fall. What Should I Do?
Ask Marge
I love my sister and I don’t want to ruin our relationship, so how do I tell her my mom and I can’t risk our health (and maybe even lives) by coming to her wedding?
Sep 2, 2020
8 Things Grocery Store Workers Wish Shoppers Knew Right NowGroceries
Number 1: Wear a mask. "I know it's annoying, but if we can do it all day, you can do it for the hour you are here.”
Jul 13, 2020
I Don’t Want to Invite a Couple Friends Over for My Socially-Distanced Barbecue Because They Haven’t Been Careful During the Pandemic. Is That OK?
Ask Marge
I know anyone I don’t invite will hear about it, so should I just scrap the whole idea?
Jul 13, 2020
My Friend Eats Loudly on Our Calls and It’s Driving Me Bonkers. What Should I Do?
Ask Marge
My friends and I have a regular Zoom cocktail hour once a week. I love seeing them (I MISS them!!!) but one friend not only slurps her drink, she snacks really loudly throughout the call.
May 30, 2020
The Etiquette Rules of Coronavirus Grocery Shopping: Be a Good Person and Follow These!
These rules would be nice to implement anytime, but while we all navigate through a confusing and frankly scary time, just having some basic niceties in place can help us all keep calm.
Mar 14, 2020
5 Things You Should *Never* Do at Costco — and 4 Things You Should Always Do
Here's how to get in and out of the club store without making any faux pas.
Feb 23, 2020
5 Things You Should Never Do at Trader Joe’s — And 5 You Should
Please, for the love all things snack-y, don't ever do number 7!
Feb 19, 2020
7 Things You Should Never Do When Having Food or Groceries Delivered
Tips from The Kitchn
Don't be that person.
Jan 16, 2020
This Is the Absolute Minimum You Should Tip Anyone Who Is Bringing You Food or Groceries
Tips from The Kitchn
Follow the "20 or 5" rule!
Jan 10, 2020
Help! My Mom Insists on Bringing Shrimp to My Home for Christmas Even Though I’m Very Allergic. What Should I Do?People
I'm hosting Christmas dinner this year and my mother wants to bring shrimp cocktail as an hors d'oeuvre. I appreciate the offer, but the problem is that I have a severe shellfish allergy and am sensitive to cross-contamination, which she knows.
Dec 20, 2019
The Dos and Don’ts of Proper Cart Etiquette at Aldi
Don't take the cart from checkout if you didn't bring a cart!
Dec 10, 2019
The 5 Rules That Still Really Matter When It Comes to Setting the Table
Tips from The Kitchn
Skip the million-and-one forks, but do not ignore these other rules.
Dec 6, 2019
Help! I Have Embarrassing Stomach Issues. How Do I Handle It When I Go to a Friend’s House for Dinner?
Ask Marge
I have ongoing stomach issues. Sometimes my stomach makes really loud, nasty-sounding snarls, and other times… well, I can’t always control my, uh, flatulence.
Nov 12, 2019
5 Potluck Sins You Do NOT Want to Make This Year
Potluck Week
As a guest, there are certain cardinal rules you must not break.
Nov 6, 2019
Quit Making This Potluck Mistake!
Potluck Week
This is so easy to fix.
Nov 5, 2019
Man Asks Random Neighbor to Cook Him Food for Cash, the Internet Reacts AccordinglyPeople
"She's cooking anyway and then I'd have varied presumably delicious food.”
Oct 31, 2019
My Friends Expect Leftovers When They Come Over for Dinner. Please, How Do I Make It Stop?
Ask Marge
I don't want to seem petty.
Jun 13, 2019
Help! I Don’t Want My Friend to Bring Her Dog Over.People
Dear Marge, My friend is incredibly devoted to her dog, and feels like when she is not at work, she wants to bring her dog everywhere with her, including my house. Her dog is great, and when it is just the two (or, I should say three) of us hanging out, I don’t mind as much.
Apr 4, 2019
10 Grocery Store Etiquette Rules You May Be BreakingGroceries
Every grocery store is a little bit like the Animal Kingdom. Among the aisles, there is a natural order that cannot be disturbed, lest the entire ecosystem fails to function. All it takes it one rogue shopper to disrupt the pecking order and throw off the whole shebang. Don’t be that person. But how, you ask? Simply don’t commit ANY of the following crimes, aka the 10 cardinal sins of grocery shopping.
Mar 22, 2019
I’m a Germ Freak and I Hate Sharing Food. How Do I Say “No”?People
Dear Marge, I don’t really like sharing drinks or biting from someone’s food to taste it. All too often I am in the situation when a coworker or friend hands me their drink or something they’re eating and says, “Oh, you have to try this!” Once someone was so pushy I finally cut a piece from the end she hadn’t bitten into, and then she looked at me like I was a freak. Well, maybe when it comes to germs I am.
Mar 7, 2019
Can I Ask My Vegan Uncle to Bring His Own Meal to Dinner?People
Dear Marge, I come from a long line of carnivores, but one of my extended family members is vegan. Whenever we get together, I make a separate meal to accommodate his diet. I realize we don’t have to do this, but I am trying to be hospitable. Is there an appropriate way to ask him to bring something he can eat, or should I just continue to make an extra meal? Signed, Overextended Host Dear OH, You are SO not alone!
Feb 21, 2019
A Vegan Bride Uninvited Her Omnivore Guests to Her WeddingSkills
There is hardly a more stressful time in a person’s life than the months leading up to his or her wedding. Who among us has not experienced even the secondhand strain of trying to create an epic party that is both memorable, romantic, and embodies a couple’s strongly-held beliefs about life and love? In perhaps that regard one might sympathize with the vegan bride who recently went viral because she decided to uninvite all the guests who eat meat to her wedding.
Feb 19, 2019
I Think My Friend Is Faking Her Food Allergy. Can I Say Something?People
Dear Marge, I think my friend is faking food allergies. We go to restaurants and she has long conversations with the waiter about how she will get really sick if there is even a hint of … and then she names like seven or eight foods she can’t eat. And when any of us want to get together at each other’s houses, it becomes this whole big production to make something she will eat.
Jan 16, 2019
Help! My Mother-in-Law Is Feeding My Kid Sugar Against My Wishes.People
This week Marge tackles a question for a reader whose mother-in-law is giving her daughter sweets even when she has repeatedly asked her not to. What is she supposed to do?
Jan 2, 2019
Dear Marge: Am I Supposed to Serve the Wine My Guest Brings to Dinner?People
Dear Marge, Can you please settle an argument for us? My partner says that when we go to our friends’ house for dinner and bring a bottle of wine, they should serve it. I point out that means the reverse is also true — so if friends bring over a bottle of crisp white and we’ve splurged on big, beautiful steaks, that’s what we’d have to pour. My partner’s response is that guests should ask what’s being served and bring a bottle that goes with it.
Dec 13, 2018
Dear Marge: Was It Rude for My Friend to Bring an Unexpected Guest to Friendsgiving? (It Ruined My Dessert Plan!)People
Dear Marge, I’m planning my annual Friendsgiving, and I don’t want to repeat my hosting crisis from last year — but I’m not sure what I can do to prevent it. I love to entertain, even in my small place. I plan my menu really carefully and try to make the table look beautiful. Last year, I invited as many friends as I could fit (12!), and scrounged to make the seating work around my regular table plus a borrowed folding table.
Nov 19, 2018
5 Things Everyone Needs to Stop Doing in the Produce SectionGroceries
I’m not sure I’ve ever been screamed at in public the way I was in a small grocery store on the outskirts of Berlin. I had no idea what the woman was saying, but it came out of her mouth in one angry unbroken paragraph — and the fact that she was yelling in German just made her sound more mad. There was nothing I could do except stand there dumbly holding a mango and waiting for her to finish.
Jun 6, 2018
Here’s How Much You Should Be Paying for Watermelons (and How to Find a Good One)Groceries
Whether you eat them grilled, wrapped in prosciutto, or just cut up into wedges, watermelons are one of the hallmarks of summer. And luckily, they’re considered the best value fruit on the market. Here’s how much you should plan to pay — and how to get the most bang for your watermelon buck.
May 29, 2018
Don’t Be the Worst: 5 Things You Should Never Do at a WeddingKitchen
Spring has sprung, summer is right around the corner, and your refrigerator is covered in save-the-dates for fast-approaching weddings — meaning you’ve booked your travel, sent gifts, and picked out your perfect outfit. And, while I’m sure you’re a fabulous human being and a stellar wedding guest, a little refresher in modern wedding etiquette never hurt anyone, right? Asking for a friend.
May 3, 2018
The Single Best Thing You Can Do When You’re Invited into Someone’s HomeKitchen
Let’s say someone invites you (yes, you!) to their house for a dinner party. What are the main things you’d usually do in order to make sure you’re a good guest when you’re there? Typically, you’d offer to help with the prep in the kitchen. And clear the plates. Maybe even wash a few things, too, right? Well, a new survey says those things aren’t all that important.
Apr 27, 2018
The One Word You Should Never Say to Guests in Your HomeKitchen
We all work so hard to make our homes beautiful, relaxing spaces where we can host our friends and family. So what if I told you that by merely uttering one little word, you could derail all the positive, beautiful attributes of your home in the eyes of your guests? Please, I beg you, never say this! “Sorry about the mess.” “Sorry it’s so hot in here.” “Sorry, we’re out of milk.” Sound familiar?
Mar 29, 2018
5 Things Your House Cleaner Wish You KnewKitchen
I’ve mentioned before how much I love splurging on getting my house professionally cleaned. I like to think I know just how to get the best cleaning experience, but to make sure, I asked my awesome house cleaner to share the biggest things she wished her clients knew. Cleaning is hard work. Hard work makes you thirsty. Be respectful of the person doing that hard work in your home and get them some water already! Your house cleaner is a professional, but not a magician.
Feb 8, 2018
The Most Obnoxious Things a Parent Can Do on Social MediaSkills
My mom marvels at how amazing social media is. She says how wonderful it is that I can connect with parents who have kids the same age as mine, that I can ask questions and get answers in real time, and that I’ve even gotten jobs all based off social networking sites that weren’t even imagined in Back to the Future. She doesn’t know the full story. The seemingly perfect “mom bods” 7.5 seconds after giving birth. The humongous homes with 14 bathrooms.
Feb 7, 2018
This Is the Most Helpful Thing You Can Do at Your Family ThanksgivingKitchen
Don’t you love Thanksgiving? Your family’s traditions, the delicious food, hanging with your cousins in the rec room after the meal is over — you look forward to it every year. And your parents look forward to seeing you! No, they insist, you can’t help with the cooking. Setting the table? Thanks, but they did it early this morning while you were still in bed checking Facebook on your phone.
Nov 21, 2017
5 Tips for Cleaning Up Worksgiving So Your Office Custodians Don’t Hate YouKitchen
Worksgiving is a great way to hang out with your colleagues and share some gossip, but like any office gathering, you can seriously piss off your building’s custodians if you’re not courteous. While some extra mess is inevitable, there are a few steps you can take during cleanup that will make it easier on them. Here’s how. Your office custodian is not your mom — their job is to maintain the office, not clean up after you.
Nov 14, 2017
Don’t Be a Monster! 3 Things Good People Do for Friendsgiving Cleanup.Kitchen
Friendsgiving is the best! All the delicious food and festivities of regular Thanksgiving — with more wine, better music, and fewer questions about why you’re still single! If you’re a Friendsgiving guest, you already know to bring at least one side and a bottle of wine. But don’t stop there: The best guests are ones who don’t just show up, eat, and leave, but make an effort to help with cleanup so your host isn’t stuck doing hours of work later.
Nov 3, 2017
5 Ways to Make Your Guests Wash Their HandsSkills
We’ve all been there: You have friends over for dinner, you notice your dining companion about to dig in, and, for whatever reason, you also know they haven’t washed their hands. Powerless, you look on in horror as their hand reaches, as if in slo-mo, arching through the air, ultimately making contact with a pita chip. Which is then dragged through the delightful pesto you made with the last of your summer basil, dripping germs and who knows what else. And now?
Oct 29, 2017
The 10 Etiquette Commandments of HalloweenPeople
Halloween is fun, so we’re not going to muddy it up with a whole bunch of rules. But here are a few suggestions for ways to stay sane, look like a good neighbor, and enjoy your night — especially for you newbies who are passing out candy for the first time. No one wants raisins or stale Tootsie rolls. Ditto on the black licorice. I’m not saying you have to shell out for the king-size candy bars (it doesn’t even have to be brand name stuff!
Oct 23, 2017
The 10 Most Common Food Items Airbnb Guests Leave BehindPeople
One of the (admittedly strange) perks of being an Airbnb host is discovering what objects my guests have left behind. As I ready my rental kitchen for the next temporary inhabitants, I get to conduct an exercise that’s part anthropological analysis of the eating and drinking habits of travelers of the world, part Easter egg hunt. In addition to the standard-issue leave-behinds like phone chargers (and, um, some unmentionables), here are 10 of the most common things I find.
Oct 18, 2017
Why You Don’t Want to Sit Next to Martha Stewart on an AirplanePeople
If you’ve ever been forced to endure a flight seated next to someone who decided to bring a tuna salad sandwich as their carry-on item, then congratulations — you’re fully prepared to be Martha Stewart’s seatmate. The OG lifestyle guru recently told the New York Times what her travel essentials are, and for the most part they’ll make you hope you never have to share an armrest with her.
Oct 15, 2017
10 European Etiquette Rules You Should KnowKitchen
No matter how well-mannered we may be back home, Europe can be a minefield of faux pas just waiting to happen. I’ve made my fair share, to be sure. For the life of me I still can’t get that cheek kiss thing right — how many, and which side was it first? Here are some tips to keep in mind from someone who’s learned the hard way, plus a few friends who either live in or travel frequently to Europe. Please, for the love of all that is holy, turn down the volume.
Oct 3, 2017
10 European Etiquette Rules You Should KnowPeople
No matter how well-mannered we may be back home, Europe can be a minefield of faux pas just waiting to happen. I’ve made my fair share, to be sure. For the life of me I still can’t get that cheek kiss thing right — how many, and which side was it first? Here are some tips to keep in mind from someone who’s learned the hard way, plus a few friends who either live in or travel frequently to Europe. Please, for the love of all that is holy, turn down the volume.
Oct 3, 2017
10 Ways to Earn Brownie Points with Restaurant WaitstaffPeople
Whether you’re trying out a restaurant while on vacation or trying to make a new-to-you place a regular go-to, there are a few things you can do to help win over the waitstaff. Because let’s face it — it’s nice if they like you as much as you like them. If you have a reservation, honor that time and arrive as close to it as possible. If you’re going to be more than 10 minutes late, give the restaurant a call to give them a heads up.
Sep 13, 2017
Stop Phubbing Friends and Family at Dinner: 6 Tips for Getting Everyone off the PhoneKitchen
Whether it’s out to dinner with friends or at home around the table with family, on a romantic date with a partner or at a cocktail hour with coworkers, we have all experienced phubbing. In case you haven’t heard of the term before, phubbing (phone snubbing) is when someone ignores their real-life companions in favor of their phones or devices. A 2015 study found that 46.3 percent of its participants admitted to being regularly phone snubbed by their loved ones.
Sep 7, 2017
One Mom’s 5 Rules for After-School SnacksPeople
I grew up in the ’80s, when a lot of our mothers were dieting and some of them — in spite of their best intentions — were passing their feelings about weight down to their children. I thought my mother was overweight. Reader, she was not, but she said she was so I believed her. In retrospect we can all acknowledge that as a size 6-petite she was rather small. But she worried about her weight and wanted to make sure we were all healthy. (We were.
Aug 26, 2017
10 Wine Rules You Should Break Right NowKitchen
I’ve been thinking a lot about wine lately — in particular since I am trying to drink less of it. (This is not because I am on a particular health kick, but rather in preparation for my upcoming trip to Portugal, where I will certainly drink muito vinho.) But really what’s been on my mind is how wine isn’t this precious thing that requires coddling and careful sipping and appreciation with words like “saddle leather.
Aug 18, 2017
A Short Guide to Navigating the Farmers Market with KidsGroceries
Our youngest child grew up at the local farmers market. Our market opened around the time he was born, and we welcomed the opportunity to walk to a local shop and buy food in the parking lot, from local vendors. The market’s founder even hired our toddler to “help” him, which consisted of playing with said founder’s phone and occasionally giving people change. His help enabled us to take our time at the market, make friends, and carefully consider our purchases.
Jul 14, 2017
Spread Some Love to Your New Neighbors with a Cute Welcome BoxPeople
Got yourself some new neighbors? (Or maybe you’re about to get some? Those for-sale houses in your development are probably going to be scooped up sometime during the summer before the school year starts!) Yay! Give them a proper welcome by bringing them a well-thought-out gift box that shows just how sweet you — and the rest of the community — can be!
May 31, 2017
The Etiquette of the Open BarKitchen
An open bar at a wedding is basically a premature gift to thank you for being a good guest. It allows you to get all the drinks you want, when you want, without having to search for an ATM. (The availability of booze adds just the right amount of social lubricant to get strangers to become friends and nudge even the shyest guests out on the dance floor, too.) Don’t make your hosts rethink their stance on serving (free!) alcohol by taking advantage of their generosity.
May 24, 2017
12 Ways to Be the Best Wedding Guest EverKitchen
Wedding season is upon us. While brides and grooms across the country are getting ready for one of the biggest days of their lives, they’re also planning one heck of a party. And it’s on you to be an awesome wedding guest. While you might be thinking, “Me? I’m a great guest!” check yourself against the list below to see if you really make the cut. Better to be safe than blacklisted, right?
May 23, 2017
5 Ways to Get Party Guests Out of the KitchenKitchen
No matter how small your kitchen happens to be, people always end up hanging out in there during parties. Bummer, right? It leaves you wondering if you should have skipped cleaning every other room of your house and just focused on cooking the food instead. The problem, of course, is that it can become a logistical issue for you if you’re trying to get stuff done and people are all sorts of in the way. Here’s how to give your well-meaning guests the boot.
May 22, 2017
6 Ways to Be a Better Listener When You’re Catching Up with a FriendKitchen
Whether you're meeting up with a friend at a bar or having him over for tea, there are some things you can do to make sure it's full of good vibes only.
May 10, 2017
5 Ways to Get the Cocktail-Hour Waitstaff to Come to YouSkills
There’s a certain type of person who never has to wait for a drink at a party. For some reason their mere presence causes any bartender or cocktail waiter in a close proximity to hop to attention, like James Bond for instance — I’m pretty sure he’s never had to flag down a bartender to order his signature martini. And waiters with hors d’oeuvres probably flock to him with trays of cocktail hot dogs.
May 9, 2017
Reader Request: How Do You Say Cheers, and Why?People
Prost! Salud! Here, here! Those would all be very acceptable ways to cheers someone before taking a drink. What do I like to say? “Cheersy pants!” You see, I have a habit of cute-ifying words — and adding the words pants to the end of sentences. (I promise, it’s more fun and endearing in real life than it sounds … I think.) I don’t remember when I started doing this, but I’ve certainly become known for it among my friends.
May 4, 2017
7 Dinner Party Rules We Finally Agree with Now That We’re AdultsKitchen
Remember the dinner parties your parents used to throw when you were a kid? You know, those weekend nights when you ate dinner early and then went upstairs to entertain yourself while mom and dad fed their friends? You’d sneak downstairs to check out the scene and it just looked so … boring! How were they all still sitting at that table? But now that it’s your turn to try adulting, you totally get it. Dinner parties are fun!
May 3, 2017