A Friend Asked Me to Pay Cash for Thanksgiving Dinner. What Do I Do?

updated Jun 5, 2019
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Q: A friend just invited me to his home for Thanksgiving dinner — and asked me to pay $50 upfront. I understand that hosting can be expensive, and I wouldn’t mind being asked to bring a dish, but asking guests for cash seems incredibly rude. Am I crazy to be a bit miffed? Has anyone else experienced this? If so, how do you handle it?

Should I tell my friend that this is not the norm?

Sent by Amelia

Editor: Amelia, I agree that asking guests to pay for Thanksgiving dinner feels very much not in the spirit of Thanksgiving. I don’t think you are wrong to feel miffed!

Readers, have you ever had to deal with a situation like this? What do you suggest?