When I was growing up, meal times weren't exactly sacred. My father worked at night, and my mother (a picky eater) often made separate meals for herself, which she ate alone while watching the evening news. From my point of view, eating together was what families on TV did. Not real people with jobs and chores and homework. So it came as a big surprise when my six-year-old announced the other day that his favorite family activity is Friday night dinner.
Here's how it happened. About a year ago, my son wanted to know how people lived without electricity. Ever the empiricist, I suggested we find out first hand. Later that day, as the sun went down, we gathered candles, shut down computers, unplugged appliances, and assembled in the kitchen. We cooked, ate, and cleaned by candlelight. Since the rest of the house was dark, we spent the evening together at the kitchen table talking, laughing, and playing cards. When it was time for bed, we brushed our teeth in a bathroom full of twinkling tea lights, then huddled together in bed to share the reading light.
Over breakfast the next morning, we talked about the previous night's experiment. Without the constant hum of appliances, the house had felt calmer and quieter. We were more rested having retired earlier than usual. And we felt more connected to each other than we do after our regular evening routine.
What started as a one-time history lesson soon became a semi-regular occurrence. Thus, Electricity-Free Friday was born. Unbeknownst to me, I had created a treasured family ritual that everyone—including me—looked forward to.
What dining rituals or traditions does your family have?
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One night as we all crowded around the kitchen table for dinner, my cheesy Dad asked, "isn't it all nice sitting down as a family?" Now, we can't eat before reciting his little form of 'grace.' It has become my favorite phrase in the English language.
You have a smart 6-year-old.
...that is an awesome tradition!
(I've done a depressing amount of cooking by candlelight / paraffin light, and the inevitable conclusion is 'I should have started this before it got dark' :D - how do you cook, by the way? Gas?)
A few months ago my best friend and I both got jobs in Chicago. We moved here seperately, both live alone, and feared our lonely selves in the city. After living in Chicago for about 2 months, we both grew tired of our simple meals for one.
To help heal our boredom both inside the kitchen and beyond, we decided on a weekly Wednesday Night Dinner. We trade off weeks cooking each other dinner and dessert. The travel to each other's apartments (about 25 minutes by car, and very difficult to navigate by train) can sometimes be a little hectic, but it is always worth it. My favorite part of this newly-instituted tradition is that the visitor never knows what the cook is preparing until she arrives. It's always a mystery and always exciting!
Our new tradition allows us to spend some extra time enjoying each other's company, and it's always a wonderful treat, no matter what we eat.
See some of the tasty dinners and desserts I've created: http://teaspoonofvanilla.wordpress.com Enjoy!
I reblogged this post:
http://housewife-chic.blogspot.com/2010/02/family-that-eats-together.html
We're still young as a family so just eating at the table is a novelty for us. Though when we visit my family my other half eats so much my grandfather always always makes a comment about how it's a good job that the plates didn't have a pattern on them or he would have eaten that too.
Charlotte xx
Since we don't say grace, and we are trying to raise our children to be grateful people, at the beginning of each family dinner we all go around the table and say what we're thankful for. It's great for us and the kids-- it keeps us grounded in how lucky we are and helps the kids to see the good in their lives. Often it might evolve into a discussion about poverty, or famine, or something like that.
What a sad, touching post. I'm so sorry.
My family eats breakfast and dinner together, and on the weekends, we eat all three meals at the same table. It's comforting, and on Sundays, we have either waffles or pancakes, and take turns reading from the papers--I love those little weird fillers--bus plunge stories--and my daughter delights in the NYT Vows column.
Since no one has made this joke yet... you now also know what it's like to be a Jew!
@AMLitt: Haha!
My fiance and I always eat dinner together (he's a grad student and I work from home, so coordinating our schedules probably isn't as difficult for us as it is for other posters here), but Friday nights are especially special because it's Shabbat.
I am living abroad in Italy for a year and to help with homesickness (and missing good home cooked food) my friends and I have "Thursday Night Dinner". It is usually a potluck so everyone can contribute but sometimes a restaurant. We even do themed dinners! Mexican Food Night or American Food Night, Tapas ect. We have become a big family of our own which makes being away from or real families easier.
It is great to start traditions of the family eating together when they are young. I come from a family of SEVEN kids. Barring scheduling issues, we ate dinner together and weekend meals together. In my family, you would wait for whoever the last person was to arrive and THEN you would eat.
Now we are almost all adults (the baby in the family leaves for college in the fall) and live spreadout in a large city. We still eat tons of meals together, getting together several times a month, if not weekly. We meet at each other's houses, my parents' house, or restaurants. For family dinners attendance is expected (and basically mandatory).
My friend, husband and I get together for a sunday night meal. Standing date but we move it around if need be. It really makes a Sunday. I look forward to it instead of dreading the weekend being over.
I love the fact that we aren't alone in incorporating family and friends in our eating rituals.