I adore birthdays. Not only my birthday but my sisters’ birthdays, parents' birthdays, and my friends’ birthdays, too. Heck, I even like strangers’ birthdays! In the past I've been known to celebrate a little thing called Nealeygras, which is basically a week-long celebration of my birth. My boyfriend thinks this is incredibly narcissistic... I think it’s just a good excuse to party.
A few years back I started a tradition of baking each of my friends and family a birthday cake of their request. It allows me to expand my repertoire, and it really goes a long way in the receiver’s book. I mean, who doesn’t like cake? (and in the small chance you don't, I will make cookies, puddings, and pies. I aim to please.)
Through all of my birthday cake baking research, I've found that what people really want is a plain and simple white cake (although frosting choices do seem to vary). A little boring in my opinion, but when done right it can be downright soul-satisfying. But a bad one, well, can be just plain bad.
I found my perfect white cake recipe on the back of the Swan's Down Cake Flour box. It is incredibly moist with a tender crumb, and always withstands the test of time. It's the little black dress of white cake! So when deciding to make a cupcake spin on the classic southern coconut cake, it seemed like a shoo-in for the base. And you know what? It didn't steer me wrong.
And to add even more of a twist, I chose to frost the cupcakes two different ways. I topped half the cupcakes with a big pile of the more traditional sweetened shredded coconut. These sugary cakes aren't for the faint of heart, but us southerners have never feared the dentist. I topped the other half with toasted, unsweetened coconut flakes. These added a mild coconut flavor and a nice little crunch. Just a little more subtle if you ask me.
In the end I love them both equally... but I'll have to let you decide for yourself. Let me know and I just might make them for your next birthday!

For the cupcakes
1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened
2 cups sugar
4 large eggs
3 cups sifted cake flour
3 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 cup coconut milk
1 teaspoon coconut extract
1/2 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
For the frosting
1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese, softened
1/2 cup (1 stick) butter, softened
2 cups powdered sugar
1 tablespoon coconut extract
Shredded, sweetened coconut
Unsweetened coconut flakes, toasted
For the cupcakes, preheat the oven to 350°. Line standard sized muffin tins with cupcake liners.
In a large bowl or stand mixer, cream together butter and sugar until light and fluffy, about 2 – 3 minutes. Add eggs, one at a time, until batter is well combined.
Sift together the already sifted cake flour, baking powder, and salt. Add the flour mixture to the creamed butter alternately with the coconut milk until all the ingredients are thoroughly incorporated. Stir in coconut and vanilla extract.
Pour batter into cupcake liners no more than two-thirds of the way full. Bake for 25 - 28 minutes, until light golden brown and a toothpick comes out clean. Remove cupcakes to a wire rack and allow to cool completely before frosting.
For the frosting, cream together the cream cheese, butter, sugar, and coconut extract. Add more coconut extract, if desired. Slather cupcakes with a dallop of frosting and spread evenly. Generously top each frosted cupcake with shredded, sweetened coconut or unsweetened toasted coconut flakes.
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(Images: Nealey Dozier)

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Comments (10)
This looks fantastic! Would you recommend any particular brand of coconut milk and flakes?
Ohhhhhh wow...yum
perfect timing! my daughter's two year birthday is coming up in two weeks and I have been looking for a fun cupcake recipe for her party! She was recently diagnosed with an allergy to dairy, and these will be perfect!! now to find a nice dairy free icing...
There's nothing wrong with a birthday week!
sounds like a dessert I would enjoy with a cup of coffee. One question, will the coconut flavoring leave a strange taste? Anyone use this flavoring?
I was actually a little weary of the coconut extract, too, but now I'm a convert! It really is very subtle...
So brilliant. I love this idea. I recently had a smoothie made with coconut milk instead of yogurt, which was also delicious.
Why not go the full birthday month?! These cupcakes look divine!
This recipe was so good! I made it as an eight inch cake and had to double the frosting to frost the entire cake.
Thanks for the recipe. It's very scrumptiously treat!
I also adapted the recipe to change them into something more muffin-like.
Substitutions and adjustments I made:
- 1 cup of warmed coconut oil, in place of butter
- 3/4 cup of sugar, decreased from 2 cups of sugar
- 2 large eggs, decreased from 4 large eggs
- 1 cup of all-purpose flour, in place of cake flour
- 1 cup of whole wheat flour, in place of cake flour
- 1 cup of old-fashioned rolled oats, in place of cake flour
- 1 cup of semi-sweet chocolate chips, added in
I got 18 muffins from my changes. I made it as an 8-inch cake, too with the original recipe.