Now is right about the time some of us may be feeling the pressure. The office party is looming, the neighbor down the street invited you over for cocktails, and you still have to make something for the school's holiday party. Your to-do list is reaching impressive proportions. We get it.
There are so many wonderful elements that comprise the holidays: seeing loved ones, entertaining, hosting get-togethers, and celebrating with colleagues. But within that comes much more time doing errands, prepping, and cooking. This extreme busyness can often detract from the joy and supposed peace of the season. So we'd love to take a moment to pause and talk about how you handle your holiday stress. We have a few ideas of our own, and then we'd love to hear yours!
1) Have Designated Daily "Me" Time: It can sound trite, but even if you devote ten minutes to doing something for yourself, you'll feel more relaxed this holiday season. This could be a short walk, reading a chapter of a new book, or a hot shower.
2) Rituals are Important. Find One. Routines help order the chaos in our lives. Maybe this looks like a special way you like to make your coffee in the morning or a cup of spiced hot chocolate at night. Whatever it is, however big or small, allow yourself to celebrate rituals this holiday season.
3) Plan Meals When You're Grocery Shopping: When you're planning meals or party recipes for others, the last thing you want to do is think about what you're going to feed yourself, your partner or your family that evening. If you're not in the habit of planning out meals in advance, do yourself a favor and try it just for a few days. It can be as simple as a stir fry, frittata, or baked chicken but you'll thank yourself for it when things get hectic mid-week.
4) Stockpile A Few Hostess Gifts: There's nothing worse than having to make a special trip out at the end of a long workday to get an emergency bottle of wine or hostess gift. Stock up -- you'll be relieved on party night when you open the cupboard and have a few options at hand.
5) Try Something New: Choosing a challenge in the kitchen (or out of the kitchen) is a great way to keep your mind focused and to de-stress. It sounds counter-intuitive in a way: you've got enough to do, why would you want to add learning how to make homemade marshmellows to the mix? But a new task or project will make you feel gratified in a way that whipping up the same old dessert just can't.
Related: Stress-Less Dinner Tip: Set the Table the Night Before
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I relieve holiday stress by making logs of frozen cookie dough, way back in November, so I can slice/bake or roll/bake a batch or a few of each flavor any day or even every day; I don't try completely New dishes on company or at parties, because that produced a significant amount of anxiety for me, I stick to what I'm good at but embellish or alter flavors or the decoration slightly; I reserve at least 15 minutes a day, early morning or late night but when it's dark, to sit and look at the Christmas tree by myself when the house is quiet; and if all else fails I kick off my shoes and dance around the house like Snoopy to the Vince Guaraldi Trio's version of Linus and Lucy. Try that last one, trust me, it Works!
Here's a thought: don't do everything on your list or better yet don't agree to do some things in the first place. Before you stress out about something you should ask yourself if it is really important. Chances are it's not.
Exercise & alcohol. Not in conjunction.
I think for me the biggest stress isn't being too busy/doing too much, but just family stress. I love my family dearly, but frankly, we're a bit of a mess right now, including major illness, so it's hard to feel really festive. It's a bit sad to want to spend time with family and then end up not enjoying it.
So what I've been doing is making some what for me are genuinely fun plans with friends for the holiday season. Even more importantly, making plans for right AFTER the holidays. Gives me something to look forward to, so I don't put too much emotional weight into Christmas itself, or feel that my entire personal life is my family. Knowing I'm going ice skating in early January with a dear friend and her little girl who adores me -- or having a post-holiday turkey dinner with another close friend -- really helps balance out any family drama.
And if the family stuff goes great, great! Maybe it will be a wonderful holiday and then I get to go do a bunch of fun stuff with friends, too.
Oh plus of course "Bad Santa."
@cmcinnyc-yes! Keeping up your workout routine is important this time of year to maintain your sanity and not to mention your pants size. My workouts may be shorter than normal but its important to do something/anything to get those endorphins going and relieve the stress. And a glass of wine, bottle of beer or cocktail of choice doesn't hurt either. Consider it your reward for getting your workout in.
@leapkate I am right there in that family boat with you, although my personal choice is "Elf." Plans after the holidays is a great suggestion for getting to the other side of the holidays; thanks!
Also, where might one acquire the shoes in that photo above? I would love to walk out of a craptastic year wearing them.
@leapake: As far as I can tell, the family thing doesn't get any easier. Just more complicated with age. Fun plans are a great idea!
@Shandygirl: Those shoes are Dankso clogs. I've had them for years and years...
@cmcyinnyc: Wise words.
@bens: I do this often actually. Mine's a little more drastic (i.e. "Is anyone really going to die?") The answer's always --thankfully-- no and puts everything in perspective :)
I schedule a "coffee date" with a dear and trusted friend. We vent and laugh as we sip our hot beverages (sometimes spiked).
Number 3 is essential for me. I also did a post on this on blog a few weeks back as it pertains to entertaining - come by and check it out:
12 Ways to Take the Stress Out of the Holiday Entertaining Season