Is There Cookie Swap Etiquette?

'Tis the season and no one knows it better than The Kitchn's writers during Cookie Week. After being invited to our fair share of cookie swaps this season, we noticed trends in the way hostesses arrange the logistics and the way participants talk about the treats they bring to share. We started to wonder if there was such a thing as cookie swap etiquette. Interestingly enough, Time Magazine just did a piece that discussed just this topic:

Read it: Cookie Swaps:Sweet and Also Stressful

It turns out cookie swaps aren't always all sugar and spice. They are equal parts pressure, competition, and judgment. Hostesses often make their own sets of rules, ranging from no chocolate chip cookies to stringent RSVP guidelines.

Participants also hold high expectations of each other; if you spent four hours on your batches, you expect the same from others and look down upon those who did the slice-and-bake sugar cookies from the supermarket. We're thinking this kind of swap may defeat the point of getting together and sharing in the holiday spirit, but we also wonder if it's perhaps inevitable when you get together a roomful of ambitious bakers.

Do you feel as though cookie swaps are often more like contests than joyful respites from the hustle and bustle? Do you have any tactics for making them more enjoyable and much less stressful?

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Hosting a Cookie Exchage: 5 Sweet and Simple Tips
Cookie Swap by Julia M. Usher

(Image: Megan Gordon)

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