I was born in LA in the seventies which meant, among other things, there were margaritas, a cedar hot tub, and Eagles and Steely Dan records playing a lot at our house.
I remember my dad in bell-bottom jeans with woven Guatemalan belts and tied his hair back with a scrap of leather while letting his massive beard spread across his chest. My mom also wore flared jeans, hers high-waisted, with flouncy pastel tops and long silky blown-out hair. If you are over a certain age, these are probably familiar images.
I was the kind of kid who was free to get dirty, play car on upturned pots and pans, and to truly experience being bored, meaning I didn't always have "something to do." This is what I partially credit for having so many deep food and cooking memories. I wasn't in the other room watching television; I was watching my parents, taking in how they lived life in the kitchen.
An early, very visceral memory, is of the way my dad smashed ice for drinks.
In the laundry room, tucked in a drawer with the batteries and a measuring tape, my dad kept a blue denim bag that my mom sewed from an old Levi's pant leg. He would fill the bag with cubed ice and then take it out to the pink concrete patio and smash the heck out of it with a big wooden mallet my grandfather fashioned out of a bowling pin. The ice was usually destined for margaritas, including a "version" (as opposed to "virgin") one for me. It was unevenly crushed; some big pieces, some like ice dust. Perfectly imperfect, it made for a fine drink.
For some strange reason it has taken me almost twenty years of being out of the house to make my own cocktail ice smashing bag. Last weekend someone brought me a bottle of rye and I was struggling with the ice question — one I usually solve by buying a bag at the corner deli and smashing it agressively on my kitchen floor — and I started missing my parents.
Like a memory getting dislodged, I remembered my dad's ice bag.
I found an old pair of jeans and dusted off the sewing machine. I cut four somewhat equal pieces of fabric off the jeans and in about ten minutes I had my own ice bag and three to give away.

Dad said the whole thing is pretty elementary. He used to twist a towel around a handful of ice but the towel would often rip. Mom suggested the Levis. "You know Levis were made for railroad workers and miners, so they can stand up to the ice," Dad told me this week. These days he uses a rubber mallet because "it's easier on the jeans."
Still, I'd do anything to have that bowling pin mallet in my arsenal. For now I use the side of my meat tenderizer. Yes, it's clean, and yes, the jeans are clean too. One could argue that the washes and dyes used in denim and not things you want pounded into your cocktail ice. There are similar arguments to be made for a mallet used to pound raw meat. Thank you, these points are well-taken. Luckily I don't drink liquor very often, but when I do, I like it strong, so I figure it all balances out in the end.
Sometimes keeping memories alive is worth the risk.

How to Make a Denim Ice Smashing BagFind an old pair of jeans. Measuring from the bottom hem, cut off about 15-inches of the leg. Turn the fabric inside out. Either by hand or with a machine, sew up the bottom end. Obviously, to make two bags, use the other leg. To make four, slice off two more cylinders, making your way — pardon me for the graphic — with the scissors, up to the crotch for the final cut and chose one end to seal with stitches.
To ensure a seal (and because it makes me feel like I know how to sew) you can make some diagonal stitches across each side. Any experienced sewer will say this does nothing; it was simply my way of adding a little loving flourish to the bag, and to listen to the hum of the sewing machine just a little bit longer. This is a sewing project just about anyone can handle: nothing matters, from the color of the thread to how straight your stitches are. Just make sure you sew all the way across.
To finish, trim any long pieces of thread, turn the bag right side out, and wash in hot water.
Which Ice for Which Drinks?Maureen Petrosky, our cocktails columnist, has this to say about cocktail ice:
1. If a drink is shaken use cubes and if it is stirred use cracked ice.
2. The point of the ice is to chill the drink and not water it down.Tons of experimentation and lots of shaking and stirring among the experts have proven that point #1 is the most efficient way to cool each category of drink without watering them down.
Related: Straight Up: All About Ice
(images: Sara Kate Gillingham-Ryan except final image, unknown)
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What a great post! I, too am of the 70's and somehow the jean and playing outside and all got to me. Loved the ice crusher !
Cool.
In every way.
(and yes, those were good years... very good years)
Your parents are gorgeous!
I would imagine a trip to the thrift store or a yard sale would easily yield a pair of vintage denims for the purpose. The kind that were made in the USA, of native cotton, without stretch. Ice must taste best out of those!
The 70s were a magical time for me, seems like I was always on my bicycle - or roller skates, lol...
Great idea - I'll have to try it!
(now I'm going to look up my 70s playlist...)
Makes me want to cry! Great memories.
Such a great post - great way to start off my day. Thank you!
Sara Kate,
I love this post - don't have the exact same memories, but love the throw-back to where we used old jeans and repurposed bowling pins and things like that. My parents are still like that and I definitely lean that direction (I'm "over a certain age") and just love ideas for using what I already have for what I need! I, also, was the one who played in the dirt, was allowed to get bored (we didn't own a TV, and I still don't) and I try to raise my kids the same way. My pots, pans and mixing bowls aren't just for cooking...Thanks for the encouragement!
Wow - you are such a blend of your parents :). I too had parents whose time in the kitchen and food for the holidays etc inspired myself & my siblings all to cook and entertain.
this is an awesome story - thanks for sharing it with us!
What a beautiful story. It touched me. And definetily, keeping memories alive it really worth the risk.
I also want you to know, that I read you every day, and is the first time ever I write in the any blog or something. You are being read from far far far away, because I am from Uruguay, South América.
Thank you for all the recepes and tips. Bye bye
It is said that boredom in children breeds imagination and creativity. I heartily agree, and believe you are proof.
I wish my folks knew the jeans ice bag method. My recollections are of my mom making many, many trays of ice a week before a party & then cracking the trays into plastic bowls & putting them in the extra freezer in the basement. Then the evening of the party, my Dad would take his trusty hammer & bang the hell out of the ice. I thought it was the "warrior" thing he did & that he felt he was providing manageable size pieces of ice for his family & friends.Usually after all this production of ice, my brother & I sat on the top steps outside our bedrooms & listened to the guests clinking their glasses of scotch.
The picture of your parents made my eyes sting because they look so much like my parents did. Dad always laughing with a untamed curly beard and head of hair, sometime in a long braid courtesy of my mom. And her, beautiful with her long soft hair, wearing high waisted flairs and shirts identical to your picture. Such a beautiful memory.
Also, I love the way the picture is truly vintage. It's so sad how instigram and photoshop have everyone imposing the patina filter on their photos. Your picture is beautiful.
Sara Kate, this was such a romantic, memory stirring post. Thank you!
What a great story---such a sweet memory---and a great idea.
I have never used a denim bag and wooden mallet to crush ice, but I have sewn up hundreds of denim bags using the legs of old denim blue jeans, and trousers. No one in my family tosses out old jeans. They save them and bring them to me, because they know they will get them back in denim bags. I got the idea from an article in Boys Life magazine when my son joined the Boy Scouts in 1980. ( http://boyslife.org/ )
I use the hemmed bottom of the leg for the top of bag, just as you have shown in the photos, and sew the raw cut end closed, to be the new "bottom." To tie off the bag, I use new shoe laces---the shortest ones I can find, or cotton twill seam tape. Depending on my mood, I will use a sewing machine to stitch the bags, but I also enjoy sewing them by hand, if I want to sit and watch TV. I normally attach the shoe laces or twill tape by hand, with 6+- "cross stitches," which look nice and they are quite sturdy. I use upholstery thread when I sew by hand, and for the cross stitching. And using a cross stitch is a good way to sew the bag up, too. Depending on the length of the bag, I usually attach the tie about three inches down from the top.
The men in my life love these bags (and some women, too :) Like the coveted Crown Royal bags, they are used over and over, and stand up to abuse and repeated washing. My husband likes to use the longer ones to pull over the end of each fishing rod and reel. It protects the reel and keeps it clean. He also loads them up with boxes of shotgun shells, tire chains, tools, and tent stakes. The list is unending.
I have used every kind of pants leg to make these bags, even my granddaughter's tiny little jeans (which were too cute for words---I used pink ribbon for the tie).
Sorry to write so much, but seeing the ice bag prompted me to share this.
What a wonderful walk into the past. So beautifully written. Thank you for sharing. Must make a bag asap.
absolutely love this post. so sweetly written and full of memories. i am now also itching for a bowling pin mallet! thank you for sharing.
Thanks for sharing your memories. As a 1970 baby, I can relate to your images. But, I'd never heard of smashing ice this way before. It's a great idea.
It has been a long long time since a post on this site made me smile and want to comment. Thank you. And I will try the jeans-ice method!
My memories are somewhat different, and I now realize we must have had a terrible freezer - I remember parties meant my father with an ice pick and hammer, trying to dislodge enough for a drink from the iceberg that had formed in our bucket of accumulated cubes.
Great idea! For years I have crushed ice in a plastic bag with a bottle, but the ice invariably breaks through the bag and makes a mess. And it sticks to a terry cloth towel. It never occurred to me to use sturdy fabric.
I love this story, reminds me that I want to be the type of parent who leaves memories like these with my kids. Thank you.
I could have written this post myself, it was that accurate to my childhood...save the 'dad being present' part! Brought back beautiful memories of my hippy family influences, loved it! Thanks so much for the share :)
Lovely post which inspires lovely memories
My parents just sold their cedar hot tub ahahah they were straight up 70s
I was an eighties baby, not a seventies one, but I can relate to sometimes being bored...usually so bored that I had to go outside and ride my bike around the neighborhood, looking for kids to play with and forts to build and playground things to climb (dangerously). I know, crazy.
My parents didn't speak a lot of English when I was growing up, and our tables were filled with Korean food and tri tip (ubiquitous fare in my hometown). I remember having lots of parties, kids going wild in my bedroom (even little ol' me was not happy when my cousin started flinging watermelon out my window into the backyard).
I think this is why I started cooking last year--to start creating these gatherings and memories and bonds for myself, since I know my parents won't be around forever (and indeed, I'm getting to that age where I'm starting to think of how to take care of THEM).
Thanks for stirring these thoughts!
This '60s baby loves your post. Such evocative writing. What a joy to read!
So fun! My parents had a similar bag but it was used to store camp utensils. My mom embroidered it with a tiny pine tree. We still use it, even though we don't camp as often.
Thank you SaraKate!
I love this story. I was the 70's mom and this story explains why I lake Sara Kate so much. My daughter must be about the same age. Anyway...what a great idea...yet another Kitchn tip to try! Thanks!
SK - thanks for prompting me to remember my sweet, ordinary childhood (during the 70s) and my lovely, un-neurotic parents,who have lived long, happy lives. Thanks, too, for reminding me about UNSTRUCTURED TIME. Think I'll leave the office now (it's after 8 pm) and go home and fix myself a drink.
Love this story, the denim ice bag and (best of all) the photo of your parents, Sara Kate!
Oh, the nostalgia. I think this is my favourite AT post ever. You made my day, Sara Kate!
What a great idea! I'm looking forward to trying that this weekend. The reason I'm commenting, though, is that I picked up a bottle of the Redemption Rye a couple weeks ago and it's my new favorite thing EVER.
this is the sweetest thing I've read in a long time. Thank you.
Loved the post and while I didn't grow up in LA, did grow up in Northern California in the 70s to a little less free wheeling parents but I could totally get the visual.
Also, you and your mom look so much alike. Beautiful picture of your parents above.
fabulous nostalgia and great tips/ideas too.... thanks as always!
Thank you all for these beautiful comments and memories!
This is such a fun idea!! Love it!
http://marleyturned.com/Mallet.html
In the "say Hello" tab you should be able to message them and see if you can get one made.