Thanksgiving is a holiday with a script already written for us by Norman Rockwell images and routines established since childhood. We know what's expected: the turkey, the stuffing, getting stuck at the kids' table (or wishing you were there). It's a script of generosity and ridiculous, table-bending bounty — and seemingly unavoidable expectations.
But it's not unbreakable. This year, we're doing Thanksgiving by heart, taking the things we love enough about this holiday to keep, and casting off the parts that no longer belong in our budgets, our families, or our sense of what brings us peace.